We're 3 weeks into January, so it's safe to say the buzz of New Years resolutions and our excitement about the year ahead has almost worn off. I'm not trying to be miserable by saying this, but it's a bloody depressing time. It's cold and rainy, and even the most positive amongst us are counting down the days until spring. I don't know about you, but winter is a tough time for me. I have to make a real effort to make an effort, whether that's with my appearance or going out. Things seem like a struggle in January.

In those moments, it's easy to think it's just you. But I've come to realise that so many of us are feeling that way. Men or women, old or young, we all have down moments. We're only human. We all have insecurities too and these can be exacerbated when the weather is gloomy AF. It's funny, because you might look at a friend and think she has the perfect life. Great job, lovely boyfriend, nice house, cool style, a true beauty inside and out - but she might be berating herself every day, suffering from serious anxiety, struggling to pay the bills. You just don't know what's going on with other people. It's so important to be kind to others and treat people how you'd want to be treated.

I think the whole online sphere also makes it so much more difficult to stay upbeat and feel good about yourself. Everyone posts pictures of them living the perfect life and looking utterly flawless, and although this isn't news to anyone, it's not real. I recently unfollowed about 400 people on Instagram that just made me feel lousy. You've got to do what makes you feel good to keep your head above the water and you should never feel bad about doing that.

So here are my best self-care tips for January. When the going gets tough...etc.
  1. Do what you need to do. Whatever the weather, we all feel peer pressure. There are some nights when you're desperate to stay in but other people make you feel like you have to go out. Other times, you're keen to go out and celebrate but people will make you feel guilty about how much you drink. Whatever you wanna do, just do it. Don't listen to anyone else. At least twice a week I need a night in on my own so I can get my shit together and relax. It's a necessity and I don't care how boring that makes me. 
  2. Get outside. Nobody wants to be in the cold, wet weather this month, but even being in fresh air for a little while every day boosts your mood. You get that much-needed boost of Vitamin D and it seriously clears your head. When I get super stressed out at work I make sure I escape the building for a break and it works wonders, even when I feel like I've got absolutely no time for it. 
  3. Talk to someone. When I feel down in the dumps, I speak to my closest friends, colleagues and/or family members. It sounds simple, but a lot of people seem to keep things bottled up and I have absolutely no idea how. If something is bothering you, get it out in the open. And if you're not comfortable with it, it doesn't need to be your friends that you speak to. A professional is equipped to help with whatever you're struggling with; no problem is too small.
  4. Keep a diary. It might sound silly and twee, but when I need to get something off my chest I write it down. Fingers crossed, we're at an age where we don't have siblings threatening to read them out loud, so there's no excuse not to give it a go. It doesn't have to be every day, and it doesn't even need to make much sense. Whatever way works for you.
  5. Do a digital detox. I briefly touched on the impact social media has on us, but I could talk about it all day. There's so much good online, but there's also a lot of negative. Sometimes I don't want to see other people looking happy and feel envious about what they've got going on in their lives. In times like those, I go offline for a week and spend my time reading, writing, cooking, hanging out with my friends, learning...and I never regret it!
  6. Look after your health. Eat well, exercise, sleep enough, chill when needed. 
  7. Treat yourself. I can easily find myself working way too hard or putting far too much pressure on myself. In those times it's important to treat yourself whatever way you can. It could be buying yourself a new dress, getting an early night, going to the cinema alone (omg my idea of heaven), whatever. You deserve it <3 

Coat, Dorothy Perkins (on sale now); top, I Saw It First (matching skirt here); trousers, ASOS; boots, Topshop (on sale now); beret, similar here

Seeing as we're on the positivity wagon this evening, I thought I'd do a bit of self-promotion and ask you to like my brand-spanking new professional Facebook page :O If you've spotted me in Fabulous before, you may know that I'm their Fashion Assistant and will be posting content here for all the world to see. Gizzus a like if you fancy! 

Till' next time, look after yourselves! 
Daisy xox

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